Sex and the city/ the other side?

"Aschleigh, we get it that slut is a trigger for you, and misogynist is equally incendiary for JSin. Name-calling is one thing; dragging personal details about someone's private life into a public forum is quite another. Both of you can stop now."

THANK YOU!

l haven't been around much lately, and frankly, not being part of this kind of Tribe drama has made life in real time much easier to deal with. l'm here because in real time, JSin is a close friend of mine and he mentioned it, so l thought l'd check it out. However, l must apologize ahead of time, because even though JSin can fight his own battles just fine, l have a few words to say here.

"It would be great if straight up misogyny was noticed and not tolerated in this tribe.
Sexism is a slippery slope ( lots of disagreements about what constitutes sexism and if that is bad or not ) , but the afore mentioned quote sounds like hatred of women."

Then you hear wrong. l've known JSin for a number of years now. l don't hang out with misogynists, but he'll be the first to tell you that l often disagree with the way he words himself. He comes off the wrong way at times, but most who post alongside him seem to get that it's just his style. Hell, JSin's a feminist if you actually pay attention to a number of his posts on womens' rights and dues. But the real reason that l know you are wrong is because l've met his daughter, who is a Tribe friend, and they have one of the most honest, respectful relationships l've seen. She is smart as hell, has a mind of her own, and is far more mature than l could have hoped to be at that age. She's a strong young lady, and the kind of daughter her father should be -and is- proud of. He is the person she calls for advice, and when he delivers it, he is just as blunt as he is online, but he pulls no punches, and she both listens and challenges him on valid points. A misogynist cannot raise a woman like this.

"I thought you have the women you lived with but are not dating, yet she's paying for your school, to pay your bills. And I thought she was paying the school bill so that you could stop working at the job that hurts your body.
Or the women your dating yet not living with, does she pay the bills too?"

l've had quite a few disagreements with you, Aschleigh, and l make no bones about that, but for the most part, l just thought maybe you were young. Now l know that you are.

l can't begin to fathom why you think it's acceptable to bring up topics about someone's personal life that you know absolutely nothing about as though it will somehow give you an edge. This is netiquette one oh one, and what it tells us is that you are a dirty fighter, and that you aren't to be trusted. Congratulations.

"I do see that some people are offended by the word slut and some are not, like oriental or nigger or fag. "

Sure they are, that's a given. But l'd like to point out that on that show, Samantha herself claims sluthood, a convenient fact that seems to have been overlooked here. The implication, then, is she's taking the word back for herself. l'm a strong woman who likes sex, and l call myself a slut. Just because some (men and women) define it as a woman who indiscriminately sleeps around and spreads disease doesn't mean that's what l do just because l call myself one, and has more to do with their projections about it than my feelings on the matter, which aren't that major. lf l give it power, then it controls my life experience, and frankly, l have bigger things to worry about, like if all of HIllary's supporters are going to vote for McCain now. Anyway, 'slut' is the preferred term for asshole date-rape jocks, men with big cars and little dicks, and jilted lovers. When you think about it that way, sorta takes the oomph out of it.

But please don't say that you are just sticking up for other people who might be offended; this is an issue that clearly and obviously bothers *you*. At least own THAT. Also, getting upset over what someone calls a fictional character is weird.

I do see that some people are offended by the word slut and some are not, like oriental or nigger or fag.

It's not so much that he called this fictional character a slut, which to me being called that doesn't have to be a negative disrespectful thing, but it was more about the derogatory phrasing to the statement that bothered me.

"The slut what ever her name is might b a good ride but not much else. .."

Yes, it is true, it's only a fictional character, but the statement still signifies an attitude that can carry over to real life. I acknowledge that what one says in writing could be misunderstood because you cannot hear the tone of how it is said, but it seems to state that women who really enjoy sex with more than one partner, is not someone you would take seriously and want to have a relationship with.