Very well said, Web. To me the "too" type of nice is usually rather transparent - you can often tell if the person being too nice is nervous, unsure of themselves, or trying to manipulate you in some way (e.g., salesmen, politicians, etc). But the other type of nice I associate more w/ social ettiquette. It's nice to smile, greet or otherwise acknowledge another person when you walk down the street, hold a door open for someone, be true to your word, etc.

But to answer PapaRed's original question - if I was to describe someone only as 'nice', i would generally use it to describe a pleasant person, but someone somewhat on the bland side. Generally, in these cases, I'd be led to believe they may be a little too hung up on conformity.

If someone was intelligent, engaging, happy AND nice, then of course I'd find him sexy.

Hey! I'm not nice, but I'm not rude, conceited, uncaring or cold!

I think you make a good point. You can't judge a book by it's cover.
I don't know if nice is sexy in and of itself, but it's a great place to start.
And if people put some thought into being considerate, it can be kind of sexy.
That's why people sometimes get crushes on the waitstaff at restaurants and coffee shops.

polite is politically correct in a given situation, nice can be excused when one oversteps another, and then asked about later. Nice=sexy....I don't think so. I can be nice to "you" when "you" are an asshole.
Nice can also be viewed as a tease or naughty...........ex: the catholic school girl, they are raised one way, and abide that way in public.......but aren't true to that teaching..........

If I'm wrong by that then why so many male fantasies of such that know that they are naughty?!!!

Lynn

I can't speak for any of the other women on here, but "nice" is definitely a loaded term for me. I was raised with input from my church and the media that nice girls behave in a certain way, and that girls that weren't nice were going to hell. Niceness in that context meant keeping your thighs together as well as serving the needs of others before your own. The overall message was that my needs, as a female, were unimportant when compared to the needs of my family, and eventually, to the man who would be my husband and only lover.

Needless to say, I've left those expectations in the dust. These days, I consider nice to be more akin to the golden rule. Common courtesy is nice, honesty and integrity are nice. I'm the kind of nice girl that lets people cut in front of me if I'm at the back of the line and they have one item to my twenty. I'm the kind of nice that would return a wallet with all of the money still inside. And I'm also the kind of nice girl that likes it doggy style, hard and fast and dirty. But very, very nice.

"the girl next door".