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So many people are having kids right now. Some people say every baby is beautiful, but I just don't feel that way.
What do you say when confronted with the inevitable question? I want to say "Yes" but I know I may be lying.
Do you think every baby is beautiful? Am I just missing something?
Besides that, it's hard for me to be happy for people that I know are terribly dysfunctional. How do you circumnavigate this?
What do you say when confronted with the inevitable question? I want to say "Yes" but I know I may be lying.
Do you think every baby is beautiful? Am I just missing something?
Besides that, it's hard for me to be happy for people that I know are terribly dysfunctional. How do you circumnavigate this?
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Re: babies
Tue, May 26, 2009 - 6:22 PMI don't think most babies are beautiful. And I don't think they look like anyone - they don't have Aunt Zelda's eyes or Oscar's nose.
When people talk like this I just say "unh huh" and "hmmm"
In some way, I think this is like when you meet someone and you say "how are you?". If you say anything other than "fine" it will be really weird. But there is nothing to do about it, its the way that conversations start.
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Tue, May 26, 2009 - 6:24 PMLife is beautiful notwithstanding the many ways people try to make it ugly. New life represents beauty at it's basic form because they are not tarnished by society so therefore all babies are beautiful.
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Tue, May 26, 2009 - 8:42 PMI'm sure to each mother, their baby is beautiful. So showing support to that mother and their bond seems like a pretty good thing to do, if that is what you mean by the inevitable question.
I'm confused -- where's the dysfunction? -
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Wed, May 27, 2009 - 9:36 AMMost babies are cute.
Some are beautiful.
Some are monsterously hideous. -
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Wed, May 27, 2009 - 10:27 AMlife, and the idea of *new* life, is beautiful. newborn babies generally look like aliens.
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Wed, May 27, 2009 - 10:34 AMsome people that are having kids are great people, others have a history of addiction and dysfunction and I shudder to think about their parenting styles. It's hard to be happy for those people. It's actually hard to be happy for that kid.
People are always asking "Is (s)he cute?" and I feel bad when I tell a white lie about it. Hey, kids I adore were funny looking babies! -
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Wed, May 27, 2009 - 12:04 PMWhen my son was little I thought he looked sort of like "Mr. Chin" and would say that.... my aunt would get almost hysterically upset about it... lol... but for the first few weeks he did!!!
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Wed, May 27, 2009 - 1:26 PMI just tell people that
"They are only cute so you don't kill them"
When asked <well if they know me well I don't get asked> I tell them that "they look like a small wrinkled psudo human, I dunno is that cute?"
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"You really don't want me to answer that question."
Then again I really am not much for kids I find most of them irritating and have little use for them.
JSin
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Re: babies
Wed, May 27, 2009 - 7:26 PMi love babies, not because they are all some example of beautiful -- but because they are pure presence, and pure potential.
babies never care how their hair looks, or if you like them, or if they're good enough. they aren't thinking "why did i get this loser for a mom" or "i wish i was born into that family over there." they are present in the moment, experiencing from moment to moment, hunger, sleepiness, connection, joy, and that, to me, is beautiful.
i also have seen becoming a parent change people, so often someone i think is going to be a terrible parent turns it around and gets their life together, because they have a new view of what life is about.
and i'm sure that for each of us who is a parent, there was someone who thought "bad idea" when they heard about it ;^)
i have a theory that the babies with the weirdest looks often grow up to be the best looking, and the ones who are pretty babies morph into something less beautiful. it's about the proportions, i think. and it's just a theory, but i've seen some consistency with it.
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Wed, May 27, 2009 - 9:46 PMTrue, true, Leslie!
I always do hope that troubled people pull it together... and some funny looking babies do make great looking adults and vice versa.
I also think babies have healing powers... and I love their feet. -
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Sat, May 30, 2009 - 12:57 PMtwo of my friends have new babies... and their toes! their toes are so interesting. i love baby feet.
and yes, i saw one young one who could have had a great modeling career turn into the homeliest prepubescent ever. lost touch with her, she was my daughter's age, so she'd be 30-ish now, i wonder how she turned out?
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Sat, May 30, 2009 - 12:43 PMLOL You reminded me of an old Moms Mabely bit about a butt-ugly baby that was presented to her on a bus as "sooooo cute". Ever heard that one? -
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Sat, May 30, 2009 - 12:58 PMi just remembered... in thailand, it is bad luck to call a baby or a child beautiful, at least in village culture. you apparently are supposed to say "what an ugly baby" so you don't attract the attention of negative forces.
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