QUESTION: ARE MEN AFRAID OF WOMEN WHO KNOW WHAT THEY WANT (especially in regards to sex) ?

Don't get me wrong i would love nothing more than a relationship but i am not getting that so:

This doesn't just apply to booty calls either, it applies to relationships, do guys have a serious problem with women who are in touch with there sexuality and know what they want in regards to sex?

Not afraid or offended, at all. Of course that road runs both ways.

I can speak only for myself, but my recent experiences (and *especially* with women in their thirties) is that many women who claim to be "in touch with their needs" are mostly just need, selfish or lazy. A mature person truly in touch with their needs is actively meeting, adjusting themselves and their own life to be better, happier and more holistic, not waiting for some prince charming to come rescue them from themselves. I think it is terrific when a woman knows and asks for what she wants, but why should it be my obligation to give it to her?

I came of age during the height of angry Dworkin feminism, and I took it seriously. I trusted that righteous anger, and one of the main things it told me over and over was that women did not exist for the convenience and pleasure of men but in their own right and for themselves. Of the dozens of serious young women I knew and admired, every one of them was strong, passionate, fierce and loving. And one of the main things they told me (as a boy of twenty or so) was that my job as a man in this culture was to take care of my own needs and help other men, to listen and pay special attention to those I claimed to love or need.

When I think of what I really want, I look at the world and ask how realistic it is. Is it possible at all? If it were to happen, HOW could it happen? What can I do? Complaining that contemporary men are somehow effeminate or weak is exactly analogous to those men who complain that modern women are all ball-busting scolds, then pursue mail-order brides or engage in sexual tourism. I hear a lot of people telling me what they want, but for my own health often choose not to give it them. Suck it up and look to the beam in your own eye.

As I think I have noted before: God answers all prayers, and sometimes She says no.

Personally, I'm really sick of women who don't know what they want and try to make me guess....

Since the thread (as usual) is convoluting into a rash of sidebars regarding their opinion of what you're doing, instead of actually ADDRESSING the question itself/point being made, I'll do it line by line.

"What ever happened to the male out there driven by pure lust, and just wanted sex. (because he doesn't exist here anymore)"

Over the last half-century, men have been condemned for expressing their lust for what it is. The 'lustful male' archetype has been demonized as something to be avoided and eschewed, and this is partly why you don't see as many 'manly men' in Western countries as you may have in years past. Combine that with an increasingly common substance-driven life, liberally littered with a largely lackadaisical living standard and the host of reading materials providing dating advice via a sterilized, overly cautious PC approach, and the result is there for you to see :).

"Has womens rights gone to far and we have hurt ourselves by becoming assertive and dominant?"

No-brainer to the first part of the question; or rather, it HAS BEEN going too far in the wrong direction, to the detriment of male-to-female relations everywhere. Being assertive and dominant isn't really what is causing males to be in the sphere you're describing; nonetheless, many males really -don't- seem ready to take what is offered for what it is, particularly a good time with a girl.

If they're in the right headspace (heh heh heh..), they will not give a shit, and opportunities like you present don't come along often enough for many men to be 'ready and prepared' for. A woman who knows what she wants and directly asks for it is theoretically what men may prefer.. but put into practice, the situation seems to reverse a lot (the 'typical guy' all of sudden doesn't know WTF he wants LOL).

Any other questions?

~ Kole

There are plenty of smart, butchy boys at a good mixed martial arts gym, but pick one that generates real fighters. If you can cook and don't mind tattoos, you have a good chance to be treasured.

I have no problem with Women asking for what they want... in fact:
There are but 2 rules to Life and Love:

1st. Everyone has the Privilege to ask for whatever they want.

2nd. Everyone has the Right to say No.