Circumcision

topic posted Sun, February 11, 2007 - 6:31 PM by  magi
A friend of mine is preggo, and she just found out he's having a boy, yay! We were having a converstaion about whether or not to circumsize - should she follow the US custom so he doesn't feel weird later in life in the locker room and with (ignorant) girls, or should she leave it the way nature intended?

Are you circumsized or not? How do you feel about that?

Has anyone been circumsized as an adult?

For anyone missing his foreskin, a company is now manufacturing artifical retractable foreskins. www.viafin-atlas.com/
If someone actually tries this, I would really like to hear about the experience.
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  • Re: Circumcision

    Sun, February 11, 2007 - 6:38 PM
    I am circumcised but when my son and grandson were born I encourage they not be circumcised. Circumcision is a unnecessary procedure. If a baby boy is not circumcised and desires to be as an adult he can rather simply. However, rebuilding the foreskin is a difficult procedure. When in doubt allow it to be the person choice.
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      Sun, February 11, 2007 - 7:08 PM
      Sam, you rock buddy.

      STOP preforming unecessary surgeries on people who have no idea or voice to express their wishes.

      I don't care if it means you have to spend more time cleaning your infant's penis.

      You know, it can save time to give old people colostemies, taking the whole anus out of the evacuation routine. So, how about whenever we find someone who cannot defend or express their wishes, we could then surgically alter them in order to make them "cleaner" and "easier" to handle.

      Obviously sarcasm. STOP thinking that you have any say or SHOULD have any say over what happens to another person's body, and many problem's evaporate. Or don't...
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        Sun, February 11, 2007 - 7:35 PM
        STOP thinking that you have any say or SHOULD have any say over what happens to another person's body, and many problem's evaporate. Or don't...

        I'm not sure if this part of your statement is sarcastic or not ... but this is my spin on things. When a person has a child, they have many decisions to make. What to feed the child, for instance. For a long time, breastfeeding wasn't 'chic', so people didn't do it. 20 years later, some study comes out that says breastmilk is better for the baby, so it comes back into 'style'. In another 20 years, some study will come out that says cows milk and formula is better because .... and breast feeding will fall out of favor again.

        In the grand scheme of things, whether to circumsize or not is really small potatoes. It's up to the parents to decide and it's none of anyone else's business. What a person chooses to do to their bodies is up to them ... but when they are a newborn baby, what happens to their bodies is up to their parents. The only way to stop this is to legislate having babies out of existence or taking all newborn babies from all parents and have them raised by some government agency.

        Some people feel circumcision is an 'unnecessary surgery' ... but people have abortions, their tubes tied, vasectomies, facelifts, tummy tucks and all sorts of other types of surgery. No one is speaking out about them ... probably because these are surgeries a person can opt to have if they want it. Circumcision is a decision a person gets to make when they have a son (at least in this country). It's the same as naming the baby and many other things.

        In some countries, they 'circumcise' girls, too ... only they do it with a sharp knife and no anesthetic (sp) in an environment that isn't sterile. If a person wants their son circumcised, it has no bearing on me one way or the other.
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          Sun, February 11, 2007 - 10:32 PM
          The look like his friends argument is no longer true. In Jan 2005, it was reported that about 56% had it done. So it's about 50-50.

          Apparently, anesthesia isn't been universally used, and a study shows that unmyelinated nerves (what babies have) feel more pain than in an adult, if you think it hurts to cut off a fingertip, well... just imagine, but with more sensitive nerve endings!

          As with all surgery, there is a risk of problems if only small, infection (perhaps requiring corrective surgery), catastrophe (ie total loss of his penis), and even (yes even) death! Really, if it works leave it alone, and outside the USA (excluding the middle east) it is very uncommon, and everyone there seems to do just fine.

          With other things to do with the baby, why subject him to complications and you to more things to do (yes, an open wound inside a diaper needs extra special attention).
          FYI With a foreskin what is generally not known is to NOT try to pull it back to clean it. It is effectively sealed against the elements until puberty. Clean the outside (of course). Also pulling it back before he's old enough (and it's grown enough) can cause the skin to get stuck blocking off blood supply to the head.
          Just leave it alone!
          The chance of getting infection even not when cleaning it is extremely low. It would be like removal of the possibility of the baby having teeth, to prevent cavities because he might not brush!

          Many states now hearing it is has been proved to be an unnecessary procedure have removed the funding for it under medicare.

          There has been court cases where the adult took his parents to court over having it done. And won damages. There are many lawyers against circumcision, I'm not sure if they're in it to make money off such court cases, but parents should be advised that they run the risk of being sued in 18 years time! There are drives to make it a human rights violation, so it would be wise to look at it from that aspect!

          The original reason it became popular was not hygiene, but to stop masturbation, and therefore to cure crime!

          The study done in Africa correlating HIV and circumcision was pseudo science at it's best. Apparently the guys who had the operation could not have sex for a duration (thus were less likely to contract HIV) and the women there were unfamiliar with men who looked different and apparently there would be less sex happening. AND... (as if there needs to be more) in Africa hygiene is particularly difficult, so the study does not apply to another part of the world that has access to running water and soap and an expectation to wash daily.

          I know people say you don't miss what you never had, but someone had it done as an adult, and having had about 30,000 nerve endings removed he reported it like going from seeing in color to seeing in black and white. I didn't know him personally. He might be an exception (exceptions always make the best news).

          There are many reasons why parents believe to have it done, some responses to those can be found at any of www.nocircpa.org/4642.html / www.norm-uk.org/circumcision_myths.html / www.naturalchildbirth.org/natur...03.htm I'm sure the sites go on!

          PS There is nothing wrong with an adult who had it done with no problems. That's not the issue. The issue is why do it when it's unnecessary and can cause more problems that if it's just left alone.
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    Sun, February 11, 2007 - 7:23 PM
    I'm circumcised and I have no problem with it. In fact, I'm glade i am. A baby has no memory of the procedure and there are some people in the world that don't realize their cut penis didn't naturally come that way.(stupid as they may be)so having it circumcised has no negative effect on a man. It's not a big deal, and i see no reason to fight against it.
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      Sun, February 11, 2007 - 7:41 PM
      "here are some people in the world that don't realize their cut penis didn't naturally come that way"

      Here's a link to a funny story about that for all of you who are as addicted to Craigslist as I am:
      www.craigslist.org/about/be...8683.html

      From what I can tell, there don't appear to be any negative effects, but I know people who feel "cheated." Although, there was a South Park eposode where one of the characters mentioned that it makes your penis look bigger than it would otherwise (in appearance only). ???

      From a female perspective, I really have no preference. The first few penises I saw were cut, so it took a little getting used to seeing an uncircumsized one, but I quickly grew to love the little Snuffaluffagus (not sure of the spelling of that one).
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        Sun, February 11, 2007 - 8:24 PM
        I am circumcised or cut & personally wish I was natural. I have my tonsils, my appendix and there is no reason why I shouldnt have my foreskin too. Its pointless to circumcise other than to make them look like everyone else which is a fucked up reason in my book
  • Re: Circumcision

    Sun, February 11, 2007 - 8:31 PM
    Leave it and let him decide if he wants that skinflap when he's older.

    And teach him proper hygeine.

    ~ Kole
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      Tue, February 13, 2007 - 2:26 PM
      I have a son..

      And its funny looking back ..

      You know who was the most encouraging about circumsision... the hospital nurses. They kept using the "other kids in the Gym locker room scenario"... Whose to say that my boy will be in a highschool locker room? May be he will be home schooled by highschool. Maybe he will be like our old bud Lou..so fricking smart he was in College when he was 14. Maybe he will be so big & strong and liked by the other kids that they wouldnt dare make fun of his penis ..... Who knows...

      I felt that it was not my choice to have his foreskin removed. If my son wants to have it done when he is older...fine, he can make the informed choice for himself.

      Amy:-)
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        Re: Circumcision

        Tue, February 13, 2007 - 2:39 PM
        I kind of think that if you didn't have it done at birth, you must likely never will. What man wants to have a blade taken to his penis.

        I know it's been done to adult men, but rare I’m sure.
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    Sun, February 11, 2007 - 8:52 PM
    I am... we went back and forth on it with when pregnant with our son. We had it done. We gave into the concerns about him "looking" different and the concerns about hygine. I believe I just read it's also easier to contract HIV with foreskin.

    I don't know... probably would have it done again, but not saying it's right.
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      Sat, March 10, 2007 - 10:33 AM
      Scientists Discover 'Natural Barrier' to HIV
      By E.J. Mundell
      HealthDay Reporter Mon Mar 5, 2:02 PM ET

      MONDAY, March 5 (HealthDay News) -- Researchers have discovered that cells
      in the mucosal lining of human genitalia produce a protein that "eats up"
      invading HIV -- possibly keeping the spread of the AIDS more contained than
      it might otherwise be.

      Even more important, enhancing the activity of this protein, called
      Langerin, could be a potent new way to curtail the transmission of the virus
      that causes AIDS, the Dutch scientists added.

      Langerin is produced by Langerhans cells, which form a web-like network in
      skin and mucosa. This network is one of the first structures HIV confronts
      as it attempts to infect its host.

      However, "we observed that Langerin is able to scavenge viruses from the
      surrounding environment, thereby preventing infection," said lead researcher
      Teunis Geijtenbeek, an immunologist researcher at Vrije University Medical
      Center in Amsterdam.

      "And since generally all tissues on the outside of our bodies have
      Langerhans cells, we think that the human body is equipped with an antiviral
      defense mechanism, destroying incoming viruses," Geijtenbeek said.

      The finding, reported in the March 4 online issue of Nature Medicine, "is
      very interesting and unexpected," said Dr. Jeffrey Laurence, director of the
      Laboratory for AIDS Virus Research at the Weill Cornell Medical College, in
      New York City. "It may explain part of the relative inefficiency of HIV in
      being transmitted."

      Even though HIV has killed an estimated 22 million people since it was first
      recognized more than 25 years ago, it is actually not very good at infecting
      humans, relatively speaking.

      For example, the human papillomavirus (HPV), which causes cervical cancer,
      is nearly 100 percent infectious, Laurence noted. That means that every
      encounter with the sexually transmitted virus will end in infection.

      "On the other hand, during one episode of penile-vaginal intercourse with an
      HIV-infected partner, the chance that you are going to get HIV is somewhere
      between one in 100 and one in 200," Laurence said.

      Experts have long puzzled why HIV is relatively tough to contract, compared
      to other pathogens. The Dutch study, conducted in the laboratory using
      Langerhans cells from 13 human donors, may explain why.

      When HIV comes in contact with genital mucosa, its ultimate target -- the
      cells it seeks to hijack and destroy -- are immune system T-cells. But
      T-cells are relatively far away (in lymph tissues), so HIV uses nearby
      Langerhans cells as "vehicles" to migrate to T-cells.

      For decades, the common wisdom was that HIV easily enters and infects
      Langerhans cells. Geijtenbeek's team has now cast doubt on that notion.

      Looking closely at the interaction of HIV and Langerhans cells, they found
      that the cells "do not become infected by HIV-1, because the cells have the
      protein Langerin on their cell surface," Geijtenbeek said. "Langerin
      captures HIV-1 very efficiently, and this Langerin-bound HIV-1 is taken up
      (a bit like eating) by the Langerhans cells and destroyed."

      In essence, Geijtenbeek said, "Langerhans cells act more like a virus vacuum
      cleaner."

      Only in certain circumstances -- such as when levels of invading HIV are
      very high, or if Langerin activity is particularly weak -- are Langerhans
      cells overwhelmed by the virus and infected.

      The finding is exciting for many reasons, not the least of which is its
      potential for HIV prevention, Geijtenbeek said.

      "We are currently investigating whether we can enhance Langerin function by
      increasing the amount of Langerin on the cell surface of Langerhans cells,"
      he said. "This might be a real possibility, but it will take time. I am also
      confident that other researchers will now also start exploring this
      possibility."

      The discovery might also help explain differences in vulnerability to HIV
      infection among people.

      "It is known that the Langerin gene is different in some individuals,"
      Geijtenbeek noted. "These differences could affect the function of Langerin.
      Thus, Langerhans cells with a less functional Langerin might be more
      susceptible to HIV-1, and these individuals are more prone to infection. We
      are currently investigating this."

      The finding should also impact the race to find topical microbicides that
      might protect women against HIV infection. Choosing compounds that allow
      Langerin to continue to work its magic will enhance any candidate
      microbicide's effectiveness, the Dutch researcher said.

      Laurence did offer one note of caution, however.

      "In the test tube, this is a very important finding," he said. "But there
      are many things in the test tube that don't occur when you get into an
      animal or a human. Having said that, though, this is a very intriguing
      finding."

      More information

      For more on the fight against HIV/AIDS, head to the Foundation for AIDS
      Research.
  • Re: Circumcision

    Sun, February 11, 2007 - 9:22 PM
    It is true either way a person can grow to have a satisfying sex life. I have researched and found no reason, other than religious custom, to continue the practice of circumcision. However, I would never make a disparaging comment about parents who decide to have their son circumcised. It is the parents choice. I just want to state my opinion that I believe it is best left to the child to decide later in life.
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      Sun, February 11, 2007 - 9:46 PM
      i have a cousin who got circumcised as an adult. it was very painful for him.

      it was done to me as a baby. so it is just my natural state for me. and am glad my parents had it done. I have heard some horror stories dont know if true or not) of uncircumcised boys getting really bad infections and sores from not cleaning thoroughly.
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        Mon, February 12, 2007 - 8:52 AM
        >i have a cousin who got circumcised as an adult. it was very painful for him.

        Hee. In Genesis, there's the story of Joseph's family. One of the daughters either ran off with or was abducted by a local nomad shepherd prince (Of course you never get her side of the story). Anyways the prince really likes the girl and wants to marry into the family. Joesph's brothers are absolutely livid, but their Pops thinks that its a good idea. The brothers insist that if the two families are going to marry, then the nomads have to get circumcised. The nomads agree, and, on the third day after the circumcision, when it hurts the most, Joseph's brothers raid their place and kill them all.
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          Mon, February 12, 2007 - 11:43 AM
          As I am Jewish this is a very complex subject for me. My 3 boys are circumcised and I've attended many Jewish ritual circumcisions while living in Israel. I've talked to my boys a little bit about it and since I'm not having any more kids I don't need to worry about what I would or wouldn't do. I can see the reasoning for folks opposed to it. One of my friends is extremely anti-circumcision, and he often states he can'e believe how beautiful, loving, and whole my boys are considering what I did to them! My SO is uncircumcised and I can't say I notice a difference making love with a guy who is or isn't. On another note, given the talk of nerve imparment w/ circumcision, isn't it also possible for nerve damage to happen when adults choose to pierce their cocks and other sexual organs? Just wondering.
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            Mon, February 12, 2007 - 12:12 PM
            On another note, given the talk of nerve imparment w/ circumcision, isn't it also possible for nerve damage to happen when adults choose to pierce their cocks and other sexual organs? Just wondering.

            Great question ... and seems like piercing that part of the body would cause some nerve damage. Being one who hasn't had it done (and will not as I am opposed to piercings on me) I have no idea if it's true or not. I can't picture anyone who has had it done saying it has made sex less pleasurable, but I might be shocked, too. Let's see if anyone chimes in, pro or con.
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              Mon, February 12, 2007 - 12:42 PM
              I have 3 piercings there, 2 dydoe and a prince albert and all of them have increased sensations. The dydoe are designed to supposedly give the man some of the feeling of not being circumcised, unfortunately they fall a little short but on the bright side all of my partners have really loved them.

              I also had several frenums at one time & those too increased the sensations.
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                Mon, February 12, 2007 - 2:10 PM
                ahem....for the remedial portion of the class....

                translation please?

                dydoe:
                prince albert:
                frenum:


                (having computer problems today, "searching" has screwed up 2 downloads so far, so I don't want to risk it again) ...if you don't mind, please?

                Ooops! Sorry, gotta run....my short bus is here! :- P
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                  Mon, February 12, 2007 - 2:27 PM
                  All three are genital piercings, on the penis itself. The dydoe are in the crown as a pair, the frenum are on the shaft and the PA goes in under the crown and comes out through the urethra.

                  Probably be better with photos but I am at work and don't really want to surf to body modification sites from here but if you look at www.bmezine.com I think it is or if you google body manipulations store in SF they have a photo gallery which will explain it far better than I can here without my photos.

                  And yes I know it sounds crowded but no it really isnt, it really isnt as much metal as you are probably imagining. And A Veiled Woman you have no need of the short bus, I assumed people would know what they were but then again I got my piercings more than a decade ago so they are old to me, I forget that they are new to others.
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                    Re: Circumcision

                    Mon, February 12, 2007 - 5:16 PM
                    Simon,

                    Thanks! The terminology was only part at which I was struggling...your descriptions were perfect. I've "seen" them, afterall....just never knew the correct names.

                    Of course, that being said...maybe I'll "refresh" my memory by perusing the link you provided...heh, "thanks" again.

                    : )
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            Thu, February 15, 2007 - 3:08 PM
            Choice is the issue. Choosing a procedure because you want it for your body is different than someone else choosing it. I mean, this may be unrealistic, but image a society which ritually peirced the genitals during infancy. Really, as parents, it seems to me the most important things are to provide nutritious food, to protect them from basic dangers, care for them during sickness before they have learned how to care for themselves. Care is the essence...to do those daily things which must be done and which the child cannot do. Baptisms, circumcisions, or any other ceremonial, one-shot event I believe would be best left for the individual to choose, especially considering their either very permanent, or very culturally imporant aspects.

            From Kahlil Gibran's "The Prophet"

            And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children." And he said:
            Your children are not your children.
            They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
            They come through you but not from you,
            And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
            You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
            For they have their own thoughts.
            You may house their bodies but not their souls,
            For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
            You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
            For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
            You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
            The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
            Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
            For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.


            Nowhere in here is the need to alter our children to fit our customs. Better that we learn to alter our customs to fit our children.
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              Thu, February 15, 2007 - 4:23 PM
              Nowhere in here is the need to alter our children to fit our customs. Better that we learn to alter our customs to fit our children.

              I think this all depends on the definition of 'our children'. All sorts of people have all sorts of customs that we may or may not agree with... those people (I don't know what they're called or what they call themselves) that artificially stretch their necks come to mind.

              Parents provide all sort of things, though ... they name the baby, decide which, if any, immunizations they get, what the baby eats, etc etc. They even decide where the baby will be born (in most cases) and what types of treatments, etc they will undergo. I know a woman who opted to have her baby at home instead of in a hospital. This baby was born with her umbilical cord wrapped around her neck so she went without oxygen for more than 4 minutes. She lived but is mentally retarded. Some can say she was going to be retarded anyway, but that's not what the doctors say.

              Assuming she was not going to be retarded anyway, IMO this is a far worse plight than being circumcised as a baby. Maybe someone will disagree, though.
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              Thu, February 15, 2007 - 10:30 PM
              Are you a parent, Veru?
              I find it hard to believe that anyone who is could simplify the job of parenthood so much. We have to make a multitude of decisions outside of that simple shematic for our children as they are not equipped to make them for themselves. FYI, some societies DO pierce their children at a young age. Some wear coils around their necks to elongate them.
              This is their identity and who are we to say what is and is not right according to our own set of enculturated beliefs?

              Do you really believe that most parents are doing this thinking that it's NOT for the welfare of their child? Who are you to even say what the needs are and how they should be met? Should a child choose any and every surgical procedure the parents suggest or naybe what they eat, learn and how they function within our society? There is certainly room for individuality, but it is the parent's right and responsibility, legally and divinely to choose for a child until they are capable of choosing for themselves.

              I think you are misinterpreting that poem as well. Customs DO change at the hands of the children, who in turn become adults. Do you think a child understands enough about the world and what they will face in adulthood to guide him/herself? They cannot and it is the parent's heavy and difficult duty to make the best decisions within their power as holds true to their customs and beliefs.

              I really think parents are being underestimated as thoughtless and loveless if they don't agree with you. They are neither of those nor are they ignorant or uncivilized. We scarcley have the right to judge given the atrocities we allow and thoughtless lifestyle we lead.
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          Mon, February 12, 2007 - 3:19 PM
          <<The nomads agree, and, on the third day after the circumcision, when it hurts the most, Joseph's brothers raid their place and kill them all.>>

          I love the Joseph stories.... they're so darn weird. I thinks it's established pretty early on, that until they get humbled by near-starvation during a famine, that Joseph's brothers (excepting one who isn't as awful, & the baby, Benjamin) are not what you'd call nice people.

          Y'know, Nahema, it's been a while since I've been w/ an uncircumcised man. (Used to live in S. FL, where they abound). Looking back, I would have to say that the foreskin was definitely a plus factor in handwork. For fucking.... kinda neutral for me. But I have preferred circumcised for oral. Just my experience.

          Quelqechose.... I know a little about the Arapesh rites.... & I know I don't wanna know much more,...no no no ohhhhh no. .... I'm not even a guy & it makes me wince....
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            Sun, February 18, 2007 - 11:21 PM
            I'd also like to add that we faced absolutely zero pressure from the medical community to circumcise. In fact, the MD he had when we were still in the hospital commented that "not doing it is just plain easier for everybody." He did mention that if we chose to do it later, to consider finding a Rabbi. He said that it's been his experience that when it's not "medicalized" it's much less traumatic to the infant.
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    Sun, February 11, 2007 - 9:46 PM
    My first son is circumcised, is now 18 and doesn't care one way or the other.

    My youngest is uncircumcised because his dad felt very strongly about not cutting
    on his infant son. It was also due to information given to us by our pediatrician at the time
    about how it wasn't necessary anymore. He has had no ill affects, and his paternal grandfather
    and maternal grandfather both felt strongly that we shouldn't do it, so the men won. lol
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    Sun, February 11, 2007 - 9:49 PM
    I'm uncircumcised,And I'm glad my parents didn't clip me! If we were born with a foreskin,Why get rid of it.
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    Sun, February 11, 2007 - 10:02 PM
    BTW, if it matters ... I am circumcised. With all the f'ed up things that went on in my life, circumcision is the least of my worries ... and not remembering a time when i wasn't circumcised, it makes no difference to me at all.

    I have heard of guys who have to get circumcised later. It's not something they easily forget ... kinda like when I had my appendix taken out.
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    Re: Circumcision

    Mon, February 12, 2007 - 12:02 AM
    I don't like that it was done at birth. I would have rather made the choice myself later in life. But one of the downsides of letting your captain keep his hat is that you're more susceptible to STDs.
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      Mon, February 12, 2007 - 1:00 AM
      >> one of the downsides of letting your captain keep his hat is that you're more susceptible to STDs.

      I don't think applies to children. If it's a concern for the adult, and if he doesn't want to use a condom, then he can choose to be circumcised.

      BUT... it seems your source of information that STDs are more common is different to this source: www.cirp.org/library/disease/STD/ which says that STDs occur more in circumcised males. Here it says that a study describes the many natural immunological protective mechanisms provided by the prepuce against infection. The prepuce has many immunological protections against disease. These mechanisms may explain why surgically-altered, circumcised men seem to have a greater incidence of many different STDs. Dried-out mucous membranes are more prone to infection than naturally moist ones. The foreskin naturally moisturizes the glans penis, keeping it in optimum healthy condition to resist infection. The subpreputial moisture also contains lyzosyme, an enzyme that attacks and destroys the cell walls of bacteria.

      Another issue is penile cancer which can occur in about 1 in 600 over men over 70, but that means cutting the other 599 children unnecessarily, surely wait until they're 70, and if they are the 1 in 600 then do it.
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      Mon, February 12, 2007 - 8:28 AM
      Where did you get the information that circumcision reducing the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease?
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        Mon, February 12, 2007 - 3:40 PM
        <<Where did you get the information that circumcision reducing the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease?>>

        If that was for me, I believe it was a United Nations stats book about women of the world, circa '89. And a couple of articles, one from several yrs ago, I think, in "Lilith" magazine- a highly regarded Jewish feminist quarterly that's been around since the mid-70's. I wish I could be more specific, but I'm better at big picture than remembering exactly where I got stats of any kind, unless I'm taking it all down for footnotes. But if I'm quoting something as fact, you may rest assured I'm quite skeptical about believing everything I read- especially fly-ny-night inernet sites & blogs.

        And I did say, that in places where people have good water access/plumbing/a good level of hygine/knowledge about STDs, that the gap btwn Jewish & non-Jewish women regarding cervical cancer is closing.

        Tyler, I fully understand that you weren't condonning female genital mutilation. I simply objected to the word "acceptable". I do know it's been part of some cultures for a long time. I think the best thing we can do, is to support the women & men from those areas & cultures, who are trying to end the practice. Lots of us have causes we support, w/ time, $, volunteering, helping to educate, etc. That happens to be one of mine
        • Re: Circumcision

          Mon, February 12, 2007 - 4:06 PM
          "Tyler, I fully understand that you weren't condonning female genital mutilation. I simply objected to the word "acceptable". I do know it's been part of some cultures for a long time. I think the best thing we can do, is to support the women & men from those areas & cultures, who are trying to end the practice. Lots of us have causes we support, w/ time, $, volunteering, helping to educate, etc. That happens to be one of mine"

          The thing is, though, that every culture has something that goes on in it that is wrong in other areas. I mentioned eating dogs before. In some places they chop people's fingers off for shoplifting. In some areas ... all sorts of stuff. There was a movie I saw that dealt with a guy who had gotten caught dealing drugs in Malaysia or somewhere. They hanged him. The judge there was under the impression that in the US, they are against hanging drug dealers while the cities here decay from drug abuse.

          I'm not saying FGM (as someone else called it) is a great or even good thing ... and if there were something I could do to stop it I would ... but there are many things that go on in this country that I'd like to stop, too. The only difference is that the things people do to their children in this country are kept behind closed doors or kept on the downlow so that people don't know how common things are. For instance, molesting children.

          Many fathers, brothers, uncles, etc still have sex with their daughters, sisters and nieces in this country. Many get locked up for it, sure, but it continues to happen. The come up with things like "Megan's Law", "Amie's Law" and many other laws, regulations, ordinances and other things, but it continues to happen. No one talks about it much ... but I know of a case first hand (my cousin's daughter) who was told by her mother (who's husband had sex with her at age 7 or so) that 'nothing happened to her so she didn't need to go to therapy' ... this after the guy (not my cousin) got locked up for it. Incidentally, he got 20 years in jail for it. The point is ... this woman's father probably did her and her mother's father did her mother ... so for her, it was 'normal' and 'acceptable'. Maybe she was only thinking of herself and didn't want her husband locked up because it now means she'll have to look for another guy (or wait 20 years for him to get out ... and that isn't acceptable)... but whatever the case, this little girl had to 'suffer' (I say 'suffer' because the degree of her suffering is subject to opinion and perspective) and she may grow up to let these things happen to her daughter(s) (if she has any).
          • Re: Circumcision

            Mon, February 12, 2007 - 4:14 PM
            <<The thing is, though, that every culture has something that goes on in it that is wrong in other areas. I mentioned eating dogs before. In some places they chop people's fingers off for shoplifting. In some areas ... all sorts of stuff. There was a movie I saw that dealt with a guy who had gotten caught dealing drugs in Malaysia or somewhere. They hanged him. The judge there was under the impression that in the US, they are against hanging drug dealers while the cities here decay from drug abuse. >>

            I have some issues with this. First off female circumcision is torture, its intent is to insure the woman can't have sexual pleasure therefore will remain faithful. Male circumcision is pointless, back in the day when it started and hygeine was not what it is today an argument could be made for it although education and a washclothe would have been a better alternative. Even way back in the days when it very first started for religious reasons it was about hygiene.
            Now as far as people having their fingers chopped off for stealing or being hung for selling drugs all I can say is those countries have less thieves and drug dealers & no repeat offenders at all. Is that wrong?? Personally I would say the US is backwards there, in terms of criminal laws and punishment the US is has very serious problems that need addressing in my opinion.
          • Re: Circumcision

            Mon, February 12, 2007 - 8:38 PM
            <<The thing is, though, that every culture has something that goes on in it that is wrong in other areas.>>

            Yes, that's true. And yr point is....? Because on this thread, we're talking about circimcision, right?

            I never inferred that a culture that is oppressive can't also contain beauty, grace, & worthiness side-by-side w/ ugliness & cruelty. I don't think in such absolutes.
            Because a comparison was made to FMG, I addressed that. I did briefly bring up the micro-loans made to women in Bangladesh, as a way of illustrating what great things can happen when oppressive traditions aren't allowed to dominate.

            I've spent time in Morocco (among a few other places w/ cultures different from the one I live in). I dressed modestly (unlike many tourists) & absolutely loved the place, & much about the cultures, especially that of the Berbers. That doesn't mean I th