Sounds like a sex object to me, perhaps a single helping though depending on looks, enthusiasm and kinks perhaps an occassionaly playmate, definitely not someone Id want to spend any time with outside of the sheets, no way I could take her seriously.

I wouldn't necessarily call her a sex "object" but from the way you put it, she is most definitely someone for "fun" and not for anything further...
have fun... if that's what you are looking for... and if not, have fun in the mean time!!!

Stupid is as stupid does.

Women with high test scores seem like nothing very special to me anymore. Many of them will still make you wait an hour for them to finish messing around in the bathroom, causing you to be late to your planned event. And that is the tip of the f***ing iceberg. In my experience, they're not appreciably less likely to hit a man, waste his money, alienate his friends and family or otherwise fuck shit up.

If you found someone who doesn't share some of your mental advantages, that, in itself, may seem rather unfortunate.

BUT... does she have a natural curiosity about things? Is she interested about understanding more about the world, at least in principle?
Does she recognize the intellectual gap that appears to exist between the two of you and demand respect while also giving respect? Is she committed to living responsibly by making the best possible decisions and by following them through?

There are MANY aspects of personality that can influence or determine a person's ability to live a fulfilling life and to make a good life partner. What is usually called 'intelligence' is only one facet you need to take into account.

It's not what she's got, but what she can do with it.

Considering everything, has she demonstrated a basic ability to keep her shit together?

A lot of 'smart' people can't even do that.

Just something to think about, eh?

Just to clarify, when I ask do you not take them seriously, I don't only mean as serious romantic potential.

"Is that a spoiler for you even if she's pretty and sexually enthusiastic?"

No.

"Do you relegate her to "sex object" or do you take her seriously?"

I take all my sex objects seriously.

~ Kole

I had a steady thing with a woman who'd pretty much fried her brain with crystal. And when I say "fried," I mean back to 5th or 6th grade intellectual development. She went to night school with people who were developmentally disabled, to learn things like basic arithmetic and reading. She was good people, seriously, and loved sex. I wasn't looking for a life partner, nor was she. I felt she had genuine desire and the intellectual capacity to make valid decisions about what she wanted to do, and that was sufficient for me to have no qualms about having sex with her.

I'd have a problem with someone who simply lacked the curiosity and energy to learn about the world, no matter what they looked like.

Do you want to be with a woman who embarrasses you when she speaks?

For me that is a big turn off.

Beauty and Brains are a BIG Turn on…
To me the comb Means Sexy…

I run away, FAST!!!

If she can't hold a conversation with me, the greatest accord I'll give her is 'fuck toy'. That's about it. Even then, I'm probably too picky to go there with her.

>Is that a spoiler for you even if she's pretty and sexually enthusiastic?

Yes. A woman must be more than beauty and sexual proclivity. She must be sensible, intelligent, gracious, and have not only wisdom but the potential for great wisdom. One of the great enjoyments in a true relationship is the ability to talk about all subjects under the sun. Not being able to do so is an instant death knell to a relationship, or even the possibility of one. I'm reminded of that scene in "When Harry Met Sally" when Harry is talking about this woman he's been dating, "I asked her where she was when Kennedy was shot and she said, 'Ted Kennedy was shot?'" Ugh!

>Do you relegate her to "sex object" or do you take her seriously?

Actually, the first thing I do is look her in the eye to see if she's serious. Some women I've met think it's funny to pretend to be ditzy. But then I've met some real ones too. When the Berlin wall fell, the girl I was with started looking for Germany on a map of the USA!

Nobody likes to be thought of as a sex object for any great length of time. In the long term, it's degrading.

>How much of a prob can this be for you?

I try not to let it become a problem. If there's an incompatibility, we try to work through it. That's what couples do. If either of us doesn't think it's going to work, then we say so, and if the relationship has to end then we do so on a civil note. That's the way it's supposed to be.