Jeez! Sorry for just such a philosophical Q, but that's it. pretty much. Do women relate better to men, sexually or any other way, now, and does the fem sex id or expression changed much?

"Are Women Getting Better?"

No.

"Are they making it easier to engage with men"

HELL no. American/Western society is the most TOXIC and legally punitive place to romantically engage with any woman. Sadly, many fellow young men growing up in this culture are raised believing it's natural for women to regard men as potential rapists and 'guilty until proven innocent' of malevolent intentions.

"Are they less driven by stereo-types of the different roles of men in the office, and the marriage bed?"

Less driven, but just as willing to use these stereotypes to their advantage while completely embracing the shawl of equality.

"Assuming women are much more in tune with their sexuality today, do you feel they communicate that new attitude effectively?"

Can't answer that. I'd say it's a very flawed assumption.

~ Kole

i think that kole's answer is a good example of how we each have our own reality. he lives in a world where he thinks that women are manipulative and the women he knows think men are rapists. i'm not sure where that world is or what his community is... but that is like another planet from the people in my social circles.

in my circles (which include some very large groups of people who have conscious connections, i'm talking about thousands of people), men and women both are aware, interested in having a great experience of life, and are not only open to, but actively explore new paradigms of social structure.

as a 55-year-old woman who has a perspective of the older generation, but who is also very tapped into youth culture as well, i must say i find questions like "are women getting better" or ashleigh's "are men getting better" to be a little weird. better than what?

obviously, american society (which is what we're talking about, right?) has gone through major transitions in the past century. my grandmother would likely never have engaged sexually with anyone other than my grandfather, my mother had the option after divorce, though i don't think she ever did. i, on the other hand, have been able to have interesting, complex and very out-of-the-box relationships in my years after marriage. and my daughter has been monogamous with her partner for 13 years.

and... that's just a few people in a huge population. women are 51% of the population after all. stereotyping 51% of the population seems sort of futile, don't you think?

are there women who fit stereotypes? sure, i see them on reality shows so i know they exist. i caught that "housewives of new york" show once and was aghast. i mean, if you were a martian and you landed here and saw them as your first earthlings, you'd think they represent "women" -- but they really just represent spoiled selfish rich new york women of a particular social circle. i surely wouldn't be surprised if some of those selfish creatures were not in tune with their sexuality other than as a commodity.

but if you were a martian, and you came into the circles of people i know, you'd think women *and* men were intelligent, loving, open, caring, emotional, supportive, adventurous, creative and remarkable human beings who aren't shy in the least about integrating their sexual nature into their lives.

there is no standard. stereotypes don't work. and kole, you really ought to try to find some different circles of people, because those people you hang out with sound pretty awful. really, there are many evolved, intelligent and openminded people out there. you just have to seek them out, but when you find them, it changes your entire experience of the world.

Wasn't sure if I was going to chime in since I have a great relationship with my woman so my answer would probably be biased. However I was wondering with so many more women gravitating to the right, tuning in to FOX TV and surrendering to an angry white male god just how that dovetails into womens sexuality?

my answer is

As far as generally, the jury is still out as I see a lot of old politics still voiced by women I am amazed to hear it from, but I would be remiss if I did not acknowledge there are some awesome women in the world. These women here on tribe too! There always have been some women that "get it", and relate to men that way. And the consciousness has been making a kind of mass shift. Their message is at least clear and abundant enough to know they are out there. That voice was not so present before. They just don't reveal themselves in my small world often... or my head is stuck on something else. ??? And so, I need to circulate and.... be expecting to meet them.