"One of the main conclusions of the focus group study is that, just like women, men are different," Janssen said. "Sex researchers tend to focus a lot on differences between men and women, while not giving as much attention to the differences that exist among men, and women. This research is part of a larger agenda at the Kinsey Institute of looking at individual differences. This dates back to Alfred Kinsey's original research, but in our current research we not only try to capture the variations in men and women's sexual experiences -- we also try to understand better what explains variations in those experiences."

in other words, how men feel about sex depends on the man. and how women feel about sex depends on the woman... not just that "men feel and think about sex differently to women" -- i'm always grateful for anything that shows that we just can't push people into some predetermined box based on their genitalia. there us such a huge variation, created from so many factors, of which sex is just one.

This drives home the belief of mine that one must TALK about their sexual desires and needs repeatedly in order for their partner to understand where they are coming from. Often just once is not enough, for as this study indicates, needs and desire change over time. I guess men (and women) cannot fall back on the "I am a guy (or gal)" when explaining their sexuality.

".... an erection does not always make them feel interested in sex. "

Was this news to anybody? I mean, some guys want to use every hard-on they get but most guys have erections at random times, especially when they're younger, when they feel no desire to actually have sex at the moment. I mean, we women don't wnt to have sex every time we get wet (well, I don't!) so why would our male counterparts be different?

Personally, if I get good wood, I am going to want to put it to good use. That doesn't mean, "a mano", but it also doesn't mean with ANY female that is breathing. Such is the pre-dick-ament