Vs.

topic posted Thu, May 8, 2008 - 9:32 PM by  Sprout
Browsing around something came to my mind.
I've seen Beautiful girls and average to (ahem) less than average guys.
I don't see many Beautiful guys with less than average girls.
Is it some sort of weird natural selection?

Any thoughts?
posted by:
Sprout
Missouri
  • Re: Vs.

    Fri, May 9, 2008 - 12:26 AM
    Sure.
    Women are gravitating more toward guys who are average or less than average in looks for their hearts or their wallets.
    In tough times such as now; financial security is important.
    On the looks side of things.
    I moved to Missouri last year. Most of the people here are average looking to average looking plus or minus.
    I haven't seen any 'bombshells'.
    Looks can matter for sexual attraction.
    Getting to know someone and seeing them for their goodness inside can make any person more attractive than originally seemed.
    The easier version of this is
    If you want to just have sex with someone to look at beauty, then just find the most attractive person and have sex with them and use protection.
    If you are seeking a relationship that lasts, then look at all people as you are chasing a certain type of heart.
    There aren't any perfect packages and the ones that are close, are either taken or waiting for what is perfect for them. If they don't find it, they aren't going to settle for less.
    Betcha
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    Fri, May 9, 2008 - 9:36 AM
    The only time I've had an opportunity to observe how large groups of people pair up was high school, and at that time I don't think I noticed what you've observed to be the case.
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    Fri, May 9, 2008 - 12:19 PM
    Attraction works on less physical spheres for women. Attitude, bearing, and power attract more effectively looks, which certainly help.

    With men, physicality is key to much of their attraction to women (classically feminine physical traits); as well, historically, the man is the less attractive of the couple. Thus, why would the beautiful man settle for anything visually less inspiring?

    ~ Kole
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    Fri, May 9, 2008 - 6:12 PM
    I've known vain women who purposefully choose to be friends with women who are less attractive than they are so that they will stand out.

    Bleh...
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      Sat, May 10, 2008 - 5:11 AM
      A person you spend time with because you look good next to them is called a "foil." Yes, there's actually a term for it. And "bleh" indeed.
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        Sat, May 10, 2008 - 8:35 AM
        What's it called when you're the (comparatively) pretty one that gets talked into going out so your friend can lure in guys and then snag them with her more aggressive personality? I had a friend in high school that did this with me and another friend, but I didn't realize until later (I'm so gullible) that we were basically being used as bait. At the time, I was really shy around guys I wasn't in a relationship with, and since I wouldn't cheat if I was in a relationship, and wouldn't sleep around casually if I wasn't, they usually ended up with her.
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          Sat, May 10, 2008 - 1:57 PM
          "What's it called when you're the (comparatively) pretty one that gets talked into going out so your friend can lure in guys and then snag them with her more aggressive personality?"

          You = Gullible bait.
          She = Desperate, manipulative, and unconcerned with honesty towards her friends.
          Them (those men) = Suckers that settled for less to get a chance at what they really wanted (and never got).

          ~ Kole
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    Fri, May 9, 2008 - 9:07 PM
    Men will have the tendency to get with the hottest woman he can afford. The sad part is there are more than enough hot women more than willing to demonstrate this observation as true.

    JSin
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      Sat, May 10, 2008 - 11:54 AM
      Hmmm, I think it's a mix, but often women will gravitate, especially as they get older, to men who are attractive "on the inside" while some of us aging men gravitate towards women who are younger or prettier and thus make us feel a little less decrepit.

      It's funny, but in my most recent bout of singlehood (ended a year long relationship about 8 months ago), I've gone more for "personality cute" and chemistry, and have really enjoyed it. However, I have guy friends who are telling me that I could "do better" in the pysical appearance category. So, my conclusion is that there is definitely societal pressure on men to date more physically attractive women, and it does have an impact. If I meet a girl whom I like a lot, and have a strong connection and good chemistry with, I may still need to be strong and fight pressure to date someone more attractive on the outward appearance metric.
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        Sat, May 10, 2008 - 3:06 PM
        the societal expectations are a really good point, uncle sticky. i mentioned in the cross-posted thread in AASWA that i (on the homely side of average, lol) have dated both very attractive and not so attractive guys...and was treated much better by the not so attractive ones. in addition, the attractive ones got a lot of hassle from their friends over how much better they could do. prettier girls also can be absolutely vicious when someone less "attractive" than them has something they want. if looks could kill i'd be dead several times over... :-)

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