Do you believe males have a biological clock? That at a time in their lives they find themselves wanting to have offspring, that the desire to procreate starts to overwhelm them emotionally?
I have to say I have never had a desire to have a family, never wanted to repeat my childhood & pass it onto another generation. However I do find as I get older the idea of simply "breeding", having generations follow behind me does appeal to a certain extent. I am not sure how much of it is a biological clock and how much is a Dominance thing instead.
I have to say I have never had a desire to have a family, never wanted to repeat my childhood & pass it onto another generation. However I do find as I get older the idea of simply "breeding", having generations follow behind me does appeal to a certain extent. I am not sure how much of it is a biological clock and how much is a Dominance thing instead.
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Re: Biological Clock - male perspective?
Wed, April 30, 2008 - 10:12 AMI have pretty much zero paternal instinct.
Of course, a guy can have a kid at any time, but during those years in the late 30's when
you're typically expected to be fretting about not having kids I felt nary a twinge of remorse.
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Re: Biological Clock - male perspective?
Wed, April 30, 2008 - 10:20 AMi never noticed it myself, but I had my three kids by the time i was thirty five. i can say that there is a biological clock for grandfatherhood, but apparently none of my children can hear it ticking. the clock will probably stop before they hear it.
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Re: Biological Clock - male perspective?
Wed, April 30, 2008 - 4:35 PM"Do you believe males have a biological clock?"
Conflict creates growth; when an individual succeeds past a challenge, the thrill of a new, exciting one can spur one to do many things.
Child-rearing can be one of them (particularly for the male that has reached his own personal goals and/or has developed a sense of completeness and seeks another new route to employ his experience).
~ Kole
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Re: Biological Clock - male perspective?
Wed, April 30, 2008 - 6:00 PMI have one child. I wish I could have more. A man's biological clock is not so much influenced by dramatic fluctuations in hormones, like a female's. But, we have clocks, nonetheless. At 53, I might still consider an child, but probably not. It's just an age thing, a responsibility thing, and recognition that life is passing by and coming to an end.
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Re: Biological Clock - male perspective?
Wed, April 30, 2008 - 8:07 PMI didn't really think of having children until I was in my mid-to-late 30's. Now as I'm entering my mid-40's I think of it a bit more often, and think of all the things I'd like to do with a son or a daughter, and I wonder why it didn't occur to me earlier. All men are different, of course. Several men of my acquaintance dived right into fatherhood in their early 20's, but I don't think that happened because of a biological clock instinct, though perhaps it was.
Typically, men do have a biological clock, but don't notice or aren't aware of it until they enter into their forties. Or so the studies say. Physically-speaking, men's fertility rates begin to decline at 40, according to a new UK study. www.guardian.co.uk/science/...erissues1
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Re: Biological Clock - male perspective?
Thu, May 1, 2008 - 12:58 AMI wouldn't say I ever had the "desire" to father children, but at a certain point in my life I matured in sexual confidence and was much more serious about "sex". I fathered my daughter in my first sex experiences, my senior year in high school. I think that if pregnancy could only be the result of agreed intention, we'd be extinct. But for some men, pertetuating family line is very important.
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Re: Biological Clock - male perspective?
Fri, May 2, 2008 - 4:34 AMI've never felt a biological clock. For me it was my wife's desire for children that got me to say, "well ok, I think i can have kids and not totally screw it up." I think it's this way for most men, but I have met one or two who have a strong desire for children. Once she was pregnant, I could feel the paternal instincts kicking in. When that happens, women start nesting; men on the other hand have the urge to work, make money, bring back resources. And once my children were born there has been a very compelling desire to provide for them and protect them.
I've noticed that women tend to get the urge for children in their late 20's. When men hit their mid-30's they start to feel they have their shit together enough to make a go of it. But for myself, and I think the majority of men, it's the woman's biological clock that makes it happen. I think women will go looking for the right relationship to have children. For me, I had children because i was already in the right relationship. -
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Re: Biological Clock - male perspective?
Sat, May 10, 2008 - 6:37 AMThank you men for your answers here, especially you Simon for bringing it up! I have been online dating again and am suprised at how many men in their mid to late 40's have on their profiles that they do not have kids but want them...especially when it says 2 or more, LOL! When I read that I have to say "yeah right!" if they really wanted kids they would have had them by now so it is just a line to pick up women with since they are fishing for women in their 30's. On the other side I have been shocked how many emails I am getting from men in their 20's and 30's asking me if I would date a younger man. For me if I am old enough to be their mother I am too old...maybe!
I have not had children but it is not from lack of want just lack of a partner and then my body rebelled when I was pregnant probably due to my age so now I am looking for someone who wants to adopt or does not want kids at all since if they want a biological one I probably can't provide that need and am not willing to go through years of drugs, doctors, and money drain to have a child. -
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Re: Biological Clock - male perspective?
Sat, May 10, 2008 - 12:21 PM<<I have been shocked how many emails I am getting from men in their 20's and 30's asking me if I would date a younger man. For me if I am old enough to be their mother I am too old...maybe! >>
I hear you on that one. I sometimes just have to laugh at the emails and then be polite. Honestly, I am not interested in being a teacher unless I love you and you are going to stick around!
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Breeding Is Not Parenting
Sat, May 10, 2008 - 6:44 AMThe desire to help raise a child is a very different thing than the compulsion to sire or bear one.
