My perspective is that anything that helps us learn and grow Works on some level.
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And my perspective doesn't dispute that. l'm simply saying some real thought should be put into who we're choosing and whether or not we're learning and moving forward in the relationship, or if we're simply treading old waters.

l agree with the part of the article that says that too many give up once they hit the power struggle, and l can't say l blame them, but l do think it's too bad if one isn't willing to do the work to move through that stage. Nobody wants a power struggle, but they happen. However, if we're just taking what is right for us at that time (even if it's not necessarily healthy, or doesn't get our fires of passion broiling in the way we might like), then l think it's wise to consider how far we're going to take something, and how much that really does mean to us before we make the commitment to work through it. Otherwise, if we figure out halfway through what was just right at that time that actually, it ain't right at all, we're responsible for two hearts, not one.

A relationship shouldn't be taken lightly; sure, it's always going to be a learning experience that helps us grow, as long as we don't go in expecting someone to teach us something we can't learn on our own. Which is why l don't get into relationships to learn stuff. l may learn stuff along the way, but that's not my motivation. My motivation is to pursue a commitment to a person that nourishes and supports them, and l will learn some lessons from that commitment because all relationships have learning curves. But to place expectations on some illusory type of learning or change within a relationship is setting it up to fail, and may be placing more on a partner's shoulders than they're equipped to handle.

Be that as it may, it is also true that Mr Right isn't always right for us right now
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l never said anything to the contrary. Doesn't change the point l was makin.